Attracting and being attracted by someone we like before getting to fall in love with them might be desirable and seems lovely to many people. But to a number of people, they experienced it the other way round. Then it is up to the individual on how they approach the 'coming-to-be' partner. After trials by trials, the efforts taken might be work and ended up to a 'closer' relationship. Here, the communication styles and tones started to change and each of the couple tried the best to be as romantic as they can (in a way of acting and treated the love one). The love is in the air and everything in this world are neglected as we feel that the world is ours. The love getting stronger and some might ended up to a 'legal' (or not) relationship. But then, after the declaration (or marriage), the communication seems to change bit by bit. Some might think that was just their illusion but some might confront it with their partner. Well, here we need your response towards the matter been bold below. Thanks for the response given.
Communication between Couples: Before and After Marriage
*for unmarried couples, the topic is "Communication between Couples: Before and After Declaration"
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Normally people used to say that the relationship are getting better or improved after marriage but others cannot neglect of having 'mouthclashes' with their beloved one. As for me, the communication between me n my partner are getting less. Maybe the feeling of belonging leads us to this situation. We seldom msgs each other as we had during 'coupling' time.This might be we tried the best to satisfy and get the one we love. Now, the communication is limited to the house routine, daily news and things happen at work place. Not much issue to talk about since our marriage. Yet, I guess we need to improve on our communication as well.
Hi guys...not much to comment as the comm between me n my dear are getting better since our marriage.
P/S: Do learnt to tolerate with ur love 1. Best of luck and God bless.
Mia - "Mouthclashes" between husband and wife are part of the life marriage. Need to tolerate with each other k...try to have a seat together and talk about it k...I suggest u buy a motivation book or whatsoever related to marriage life mia...All the best
Bizi - Wow, that's great. Hope you would share tips with us. Thanks
Well... Marriage is not a bed of roses.. That is what I always hear... It is all up to the couple to solve their problem. Don't try to bring a third party to solve for you. Try solving first and then if can't, find other ways. A good marriage is when you have good communication and understanding of each other.
Saya rasa komunikasi antara pasangan akan berkurangan apabila mereka mendirikan rumah tangga disebabkan mereka telah mencapai puncak @ penyudah @ pengakhir bagi hubungan romantik mereka iaitu telah mewujudkan rumah tangga... mungkin disebabkan segala-gala luahan hati telah dikongsikan sehinggakan kehabisan topik perbicaraan mereka. walau bagaimanapun, suasana ini akan berubah apabila kehadiran cahaya mata dalam keluarga mereka... komunikasi mereka akan meningkat semula...
mine? first came the wooing part. the hunter saw a potential target and the hunt began. The prey played hard to get but it was pretty obvious that it wanted to get caught. Few months later the hunt was succesful. That was 6 years ago. so if i were to compare the before and after declaration, we were like the brits in the 19th century before declaration.
"tea me lady?" said the hunter
"goodness me! I could hardly mouth another sip" replied the prey
i would love to describe the after declaration part but am getting married in two months, so......
to sum it up, sit back and enjoy the ride :)
For me, life before and after marriage has not changed me and my spouse especially in our communication. Our busy life may effect some of it but we would still (somehow) get back on track. As for my relationship is a 'distance relationship', for time being, me and my spouse have no choice but to communicate through phone or by chatting online. Not denying that we sometimes do have misunderstanding when we have different opinions in certain aspects/topics and it ends up in argument. It can turn out to be a massive/huge argument. The best solution turns out to be, listen to whatever your spouse have to say, in a positive manner, then you can give your opinion. In return, your spouse will listen to you in a positive way. That's how it works for my relationship. We listen to each other, discuss, find a solution, and solve it.
I agree that during 'coupling time' and 'marriage time' are different. It's because, after marriage, we learn to live with each other, tolerate with each other's attitude and character which we would not have realized during our "love bird's time".
The best piece of advice I have learnt from my parents is "Both of you are one after marriage. Learn to tolerate each other. Sit down and discuss whenever a problem comes up or you have an issue to discuss. Try to understand each other. Don't hide anything from your spouse. Share everything that you have with your spouse." By sharing, we learn to understand and love one another more.
good communication is a must in order to build up a great long lasting relationship.. besides being tolerant and understanding...
although me n bf are bz wiz our own thing..we wud always find sometime to sms each other, during lunch or dinner o any time we r free to do so..and every night, we wud share about what we've gone through the whole day..it helps us to release whatever we felt inside and go to bed happily witout any burden:)) if we came across any problems and felt the world was on our shoulder, we count on each other to put the smile back on our faces..
in times we're having argument, he wud always be the one to calm me down and then talk it over slowly..it work for us..
to compare our current relationship wit before the declaration, it's still the same..only we are loving each other more n more..im thankful enuf to have sum1 as angel as him..
wel, both relationship and marriage is not as simple as they look..we must play our own part..if our partner seems to be the 'fire', then let us be the 'water'..understand each other, tolerate, be a gud listener and give greatest commitment..all these are shared by communicating wit each other..if one is not ready to be seriously devoted to a relationship..then,it's useless...
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